Anxiety is often created within us, because of our unwillingness to forgive ourselves. I know there are some things in my life I am unrelentingly critical about. I wish I had treated a friend better. I regret I didn’t get my doctorate degree. I feel guilty I am divorced after 25 years of marriage. I wish I’d called my old friends more. I could give you a long list of things I have trouble forgiving in my life. The problem is this lack of forgiveness is often a source anxiety. I start thinking about all the things I had hoped to accomplish in my life instead of the things I successfully accomplished.
We forgive our friends willingly, but often refuse to give ourselves the same consideration. We soothe our friends feelings so they don’t feel bad yet will beat ourselves up mentally.
I have had to learn to forgive myself and be much less critical in order to decrease my anxiety. Thoughts can spiral out of control and the result was panic attacks for me. If you find yourself always feeling guilty about something, and also suffer anxiety or panic attacks, it’s time to learn how to love yourself as much as you love your friends and family.